Mindfulness &

how to be aware in an unaware world

Author: Josh Avery

  • Art

    Art

    “Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once he grows up.” – Pablo Picasso

    Children see the world from a lower point of view. A child’s eye level and perception of the world are much lower than most adults.

    We forget about this perception as we gradually grow up. It’s so subtle that we barely notice the shift outside witnessing a child’s behavior.

    This eye-level perception directly dictates our behavior. If what we see more and more often is goodness, then we will behave as if we are blessed. But if what we see more is degrading, then we will behave in an unsatisfied and prideful manner.

    A bowl of fruit vs a box of doughnuts left on the kitchen table, we are not only what we eat, but we are also what we constantly see (visual cues).

    But alas, I’m getting off track. Art is the expression of the soul, and children are the expression of untainted joy. The lens through which children see the world is much bigger and much more fun than adults!

    Art is created with this imaginative perspective children employ naturally. The mind of a child is a free, vibrant, and artistic place.

    Art is a creative expression. Children are creative, imagining that anything is possible and no limits can thwart their ideas!

    Art is a curious expression. Children are curious, asking a million questions that seem to come from nowhere, but that mindset and inquisitiveness is what changes the world.

    Art is a practice in failure. Children are not afraid of failure, hell they don’t even have a grasp on the concept of failure until later in life, this allows for some pretty awesome ideas to flourish past the giving-up phase.

    Art is hard work. Children play hard, on a jungle gym, playing tag, or just doodling, there is an immense amount of excitement, energy, and focus going on in children that we can apply to our activities and work.

    Art is an open practice. Children have open minds, they don’t care about race, religion, or socioeconomic status when it comes to playing and they are not scared to tell someone they like them.

    Ever forget how to act and play as a child? Go spend some time with one! Their energy and enthusiasm will rub off on you quickly.

    For example, do you remember just playing for hours and hours without reason, without explanation, simply because you wanted to? And then your reaction when your parents would make you stop.

    You might have said, “But please, just one more minute, one more game, one more chase, please!”

    This is where the importance of mindfulness comes into play.

    All of your existence was in that minute, that game, that chase.

    Being creative and being present are the same. Returning to the present moment enhances any experience, and we create a piece of art from scratch, that enhancement can mean the difference between enjoying the process and dreading it.

    Reflection goes a long way too. Digging deep and finding out those creative expressions that bring out a sense of joy and goodness is a mindfulness practice.

    Art is the same expression of play, a game of discovering joys. Whether painting, sculpting, drawing, writing, playing an instrument, or taking a photo, each artistic expression involves a discovery of joy.

    If we are lucky, we experience a flow state as a result.

    Do you remember when time would fly at the speed of light growing up? Games were played all day, friends were allies in the battle against monsters, and the playground became your endless OASIS.

    When did we become fools thinking this is a waste of time? What children do is the most valuable time. I for one love playing, whether it’s a sport or game, cards, chess, trampolines, and water balloons.

    This is what I think Picasso is saying: an artist’s mind is as playful and curious as a child’s, and he aimed to reach that place with every painting, drawing, and piece of art.

    Try something creative like a child today and fully immerse yourself in that experience. For me, writing these words and formulating my thoughts on this page puts me into a state of child-like flow.

  • Obstacles

    Obstacles

    “Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” – Henry Ford

    While pondering my future, as I frequently do, I asked myself the ever-evolving and hard-to-answer question, “What is my dream?”

    This question came to mind when listening to an old podcast on Spotify called Wake Up / Wind Down.

    The host, Niall Breslin, with his deep Irish accent and mellow voice, sprinkles bits of wisdom twice a day, after waking up and before winding down.

    You can imagine that soft voice during a daily wind-down:

    “Use the senses to deepen your meditation: the smells, the sounds, the feeling of the muscles relaxing and settling in the body.”

    “Allow the mind and body to rest. To prepare for a new day tomorrow.”

    Taking on a project to not just have a twice-daily meditation practice, but to publish it to the world is incredible. The amount of obstacles you must move past to keep it up!

    I have mad respect for Niall, to make not one but two episodes a day, three minutes for the wake-up and nine minutes for the wind-down.

    In his own words, it was his way of keeping himself accountable to a daily meditation and reflection practice.

    Distraction, depression, worry, and anxiety were his obstacles to realizing his dream.

    Having kept his ambitious goal for over two years, recording most of the short episodes from his bedroom, Niall worked towards his goal of owning his own recording studio.

    And now he does, recording all kinds of projects and continuing his podcast journey with the Where’s the Mind Podcast.

    Personally, I have held an eight-year morning meditation practice, and occasional evening one, often tuning into the Wind Down episodes to settle into a good night’s rest.

    My obstacles were pretty much the same: restlessness, tiredness, contemplation, and rumination.

    I discovered one night during meditation, right before midnight, that the many obstacles, both in and out of the mind, had not stopped me from achieving my goal that day.

    I had discovered a thing that was so captivating, so helpful, that I had wanted to return to it no matter what.

    I later tried to apply different habit-forming techniques to other things, like recording a podcast each day, but never kept it going. It did not captivate me enough.

    We must desire to identify with a habit or else it won’t become one.

    After years of work, I can identify now as a meditator, an athlete, and a writer because I meditate, work out, and write each day.

    Those obstacles were no different than a storyline, created in my mind and fueled by more thinking, pulling me away from my dream.

    So, searching within for my dream, I found a place that kept beckoning me to return.

    A place that is filled with wonder, awe, and inspiration.

    A place that, between pages bound by glue and heat, changed the way I saw the world.

    A place that I found possible to create ever since I was given a journal by a mentor of mine years ago.

    That mentor said, “Take these blank pages and fill them with your very soul”.

    My dream then was to become a writer, to express myself in one of the oldest mediums in the world: words.

    My dream has not changed but evolved, knowing that making something natural, like writing, takes immense time and energy.

    Looking back, there have been many obstacles to this goal, and there still are many today, but I am continually realizing this dream with every word I write.

    Listening to Niall realize his dream of becoming a podcaster simply by recording his voice assured me that the hard work would pay off “one day”, or I should say it would feel like “one day”.

    In reality, what cultivates over days, weeks, months, and years is what creates a “day” that you get a book published, a record made, or a chiseled body. A “day” that you realize you’ve made it.

    And on that day, the real work begins.

    On that day, the obstacles are a lot less frightful.

  • Growth

    Growth

    “I learned to always take on things I’d never done before.
    Growth and comfort do not coexist.”
    Ginni Rometty

    I used to have a quote on all my social profiles that would say misery accompanies growth, but now I see the error in my thinking.

    If it’s true growth, there is no misery, only minor or major discomfort.

    I will now change that personal profile pronouncement to Rometty’s interpretation, which is far more accurate: growth and comfort do not coexist.

    This simple saying is a powerful reminder that stepping out of the situational and mental comfort zones of life can bring a transformation to the mind and body.

    Take the attitude of a U.S. Marine, for example, who is told to push the mind to overcome the body and then listen to the body to overcome the fear.

    Then take the attitude of a farmer; who knows there is a day of physical toil and labor ahead of them but rises early and intently to meet it.

    The Marine becomes comfortable with the uncomfortable by saving lives; the farmer does so by producing a plentiful harvest. Both reap the benefits of that discomfort.

    By welcoming the pain rather than dreading it, you can win the psychological battle of discomfort before it even starts. The Marines call this “embracing the suck.”

    On a farm, patience and perseverance win that same psychological battle. Farmers know the underrated notion that if we desire anything inside or outside the limits of our current ability, we must be willing to work at getting it.

    What falls outside our current ability to get something? Well, if you’re anything like me, asking for help is harder than I’d like to admit, but it is an essential ingredient in long-term growth.

    How can one fight an army or plant a field by themselves? The vision can be singular, but the work must be done in a multitude.

    Now, all of this isn’t to say we should never give up and let go of some things; like the tight grasp on a rope tied to a moving object, burning the hands, and straining the arms.

    There is something to be said about giving up and the current view of it. Not only is giving up good, but it is a necessity for sustainable growth.

    This brings into doubt a notion in the famous saying: it’s about the journey, not the destination.

    But if the journey makes you miserable, then the destination isn’t worth it.

    The suck will still suck just as bad, but it will suck because you are aligned with the outcome.

    But how do you know what to give up on and what to push through? It takes a nice concoction of mindfulness and experimentation.

    Mindfulness to strengthen the mind-body experience and experimentation to give the gut some options.

    This process is like driving a car through all kinds of tough environments. When we are deeply tuned in to what the body is saying while we grow in any endeavor, we know where to turn left, right, or even turn around completely.

    Every time I travel, I feel this sense of comfort and growth battling it out in my mind. It’s not always easy choosing to grow, but boy, is it rewarding.

    Through having to change plans on a dime, find work when I’m running out of funds, or learn a language to build relationships, backpacking was for me a sort of catalyst for growth.

    Another example is cold showers. They are uncomfortable, sure, but they push my comfort zone lower and lower each time, to the point that now I really enjoy a cold shower!

    I encourage you to do just one thing that you find uncomfortable. It could be trying a new food, talking to a complete stranger, or going cold at the end of your shower.