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how to be aware in an unaware world

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  • Fame

    Fame

    “I wish everyone could become rich and famous so they could realize it’s not the answer.”
    – Jim Carrey

    Have you ever fantasized about being famous? Rich? Important? Admired?

    Ever dream of the ability to buy just about anything you want without a single concern?

    Ever dream of effortlessly swiping a credit card over anything you want or opening a big-ass brown briefcase full of hundred-dollar bills? (Who said you had to be legally rich?)

    In my opinion, because I know you care about my opinion, one doesn’t make it to the level of ‘let me just casually purchase whatever I want’ without exploiting at least a hundred people in the process).

    Or have you ever lost sleep over the deep desire to be famous?

    Ever wish you could slip backstage to meet your favorite band or step out of a sleek, black limo and onto a ridiculously long, red carpet? (Why does it have to be a red carpet by the way? What if you were famous and color blind, then you might think you’re walking down a green carpet, or maybe that’s not how color blindness works. I don’t know because I can see the color red, but you get my point).

    You’d also be lying if you said no. Now I’m not calling you a liar unless you are of course, what I’m saying is that everyone who is a human being has struggled with these unfortunately hyped illusions at some point in their life.

    You might be asking me, what the hell is this guy talking about? Fame and riches aren’t bad things, they are the paths towards success and wealth.

    But then you are reminded of the age-old truism, that happiness is not predicated upon the amount of money you make or the number of people that do and don’t care about what you wore to dinner last night.

    Happiness is found right here and now. There’s no place you can find it nor any price you could pay for it.

    But if you can have fame, fortune, and true happiness all at the same time, then you, my friend, have cracked the code.

    If you’re famous, you lose the careless stroll down the street to a nice, local coffee shop or fireside chat with a stranger at a pub in Edinburgh.

    If you’re rich, you lose the meaning of value and what it means to be content with what you already have, because there becomes a price for everything, and people should definitely not be measured that way.

    If you’re truly happy, well you don’t really lose anything, I was just on a roll there for a second.

    Studies show, don’t ask me which studies damn it, that after a certain amount (say $70,000 in the US of A), a greater level of income does not equal a greater level of happiness.

    In fact, more income often increases your levels of stress and responsibility, which in turn decreases your personal time and energy.

    Fame too comes and goes with time, it’s notoriously unstable and unpredictable (Heath Ledger, Robin Williams, MJ, Prince, Lindsey Lohan).

    Okay, she didn’t die, but she did disappear for a long time and I’m pretty sure many people thought she had died.

    Look, the point is that fame is a horrible idea to put stock in. It has the worst return on investment in the world (other than DuPont or Dogecoin, of course, but they’re due to fame too really).

    I encourage you to try and observe the rich and famous of today.

    Do they seem content? Do they look happy? If their life is on display, what surrounds them?

    Then ask yourself, are you content, happy, and present? What makes it possible or nonexistent right now?

    Link It Up Baby

    1. Jim Carrey Leaves the Audience Speechless
    2. The Long List Of Stars Who Died At Age 27
    3. Divorces of the rich and famous: a 1% solution or the start of a trend?

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  • Phones

    Phones

    I’m going to give us a challenge you might have disregarded before. Leave your phone at home, turn it off for a few hours, or even the entire day.

    First, if your answer to reading this is: “There’s no way to do that, I have work, kids, priorities, responsibilities, and, and…”, then it’s probably a good time to think about how much freedom you have in your everyday life.

    Second, if your answer is: “I can’t be away from my phone too long, what if there’s an emergency, what if someone needs to reach me, what if, what if…”, then I can assure you, people will dial 911 in a real emergency, not you. You’re not a 911 operator. And even if you are, you’re off work, enjoy the nearest park!

    During your time away from your phone and all its apps, notice the way you feel when you don’t have access to your phone.

    Do you feel naked or vulnerable? Do you feel out of control for some reason? Do you constantly think about doing something on your phone?

    Note your experience without any judgment.

    The idea here is to fill only some of the time away from your phone with other activities like exercise, conversation, doodling, skydiving, or even reading.

    Although it might be a great time to do those things, use some of the time to experience and note what the mind gravitates towards.

    I’ll admit it, I love my phone! The numerous apps on my phone help me with nearly everything: navigation, meditation, shopping, research, entertaining, gaming, exercise, and calling people from around the world; all via a quick tap on a bubbly, colorful, addicting icon.

    Our many black mirrors are dual-edged swords that can either be used as a tool or as a distraction.

    Apps have been ingrained in our lives, transforming the way we interact and relate to one another.

    Even our language has changed in accordance with the popular apps available today: “Can you call an Ube?” or “Let’s find an Airbnb!”

    The way we approach these apps changes how we interact with them, and how we interact with them changes our entire experience in life.

    **This has nothing to do with anything, but I’m currently reading Kurt Vonnegut’s A Man Without A Country, which he wrote at 84 years old if I’m not mistaken (this is surprising because he was a chain smoker and should have died at like age 64). I highly recommend you read Kurt Vonnegut, it will change your life.**

    Okay, back to the topic, and the utterly important question in life: “Why?”

    Why do we look, listen, and create what we do through our apps?

    Why do we pick up our phones as soon as we wake up, instead of having a phone-less morning? (I highly recommend a phone-less morning, you’ll thank me after about a week.)

    Why do we also stay up way later than we intended to, staring at a bright rectangle screen, insisting we will go to sleep in just five more minutes? (I’m convinced YouTube is the black hole at the center of the digital universe.)

    Remember, mindfulness is the deliberate act of noticing the present moment in an open and kind way, without judgment or criticism. And some carefully developed apps can evoke us to be more mindful.

    Some apps are infamous for taking us away from the present, like Facebook’s contentious newsfeed or TikTok’s infinite scrolling.

    While many other apps are tools for bettering ourselves, like Headspace, All Trials, Better Help, Sleep Cycle, Maps, and FaceTime (which I use almost every day).

    Being part of a generation where apps have made as much of an impact as books did on the previous generation, I feel a strange calling to the little, bubbly icons.

    I actually feel my life has changed in a positive way and spurred the creation of this blog through an app called Headspace (back when it was just starting out).

    It is because our phones have so much power to change every aspect of our lives, that time spent away from that power could be some of the best time spent!

    Five More Things:

    1. A great list of apps on how to beat stress with meditation.
    2. An in-depth review of the app that transformed how I view the world, Headspace.
    3. Here is a list of great meditation apps from Mindful Organization.
    4. Seven simple ways you can practice mindfulness with your technology platforms by HuffPost.
    5. Five easy ways to do a Digital Detox by Psychology Today.

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  • Value

    Value

    “A human sacrifices their health in order to make money. Then they sacrifice their money to recuperate their health. And then they are so anxious about their future that they don’t enjoy the present; the result being that they don’t live in the present or the future, they live as if they are never going to die, and they die having never really lived.”
    – The Dali Lama

    I absolutely love this quote by the immensely influential Dali Lama because it has led to the life I lead today, as a minimalist and explorer who constantly questions his values in life.

    I had always agreed with being value-focused but didn’t really put it into practice until recently when I sold almost all my possessions, packed a 40L backpack, and began traveling the US and Europe.

    Throughout a year on the road, chasing my passion to travel and explore, meeting so many new people, and seeing so many new places I learned that a simpler life is a more fulfilling life.

    Through seeking minimalism, I found that recklessness is abundant in the Western world’s view of success and that success needn’t be defined by the amount of money in our bank accounts or the number of places we’ve been, it ought to be determined by the love we give and the love we receive!

    What I found through my journey was a greater discernment of choice. I began being able to see the impact of my choices at a deeper level. I started asking myself what my decisions, relationships, purchases, and commitments really meant.

    Constraints breed resourcefulness, self-sufficiency, and invention. So choosing a minimalist lifestyle with that in mind really made it easy.

    I was actually less content with more because all that stuff was getting in the way of my values: Time, Nature, Travel, and Connection.

    Every day we have a choice, albeit a difficult one, to make.

    Choice 1: Abandon the idea that power, prestige, and position provide happiness (because happiness is tainted).

    Choice 2: Abandon the idea that experience, relationships, and service provide fulfillment (and resort to Choice 1).

    It’s like the difference between change and transformation. Change sounds nice, right? Well, change is only temporary. If I change a habit today, then I can change that habit again tomorrow. But if I transform that habit today, there is no going back, no transforming back. As I write this, I am committed to a path that transforms me, not changes me.

    Today, I encourage you to reflect on the things that bring you true fulfillment. Take a moment to jot them down and commit them to memory. Let this realization guide you toward transforming your life in a way that aligns with your deepest desires.

    Three Links

    1. Dalai Lama – Wikipedia
    2. A Meaningful Life
    3. Adding Value

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